Let’s just start this by saying every relationship is different.
Finding your own way, with someone who fits with your groove, outweighs any opinion on life, love or relationships.
But if you’ve ever been in doubt on when you might want to settle down and possibly walk up the aisle with that significant other, then you might be interested to know that for once, three (years) is not the magic number.
Speaking to Psychology Today, Shauna H. Springer, Ph.D. said that while most couples will wait out the honeymoon period of dating, most people can sense if they feel the relationship is ‘right’ at the two year mark.
Springer suggests this is down to the fact that a set passage of time might not strengthen a relationship, but it will allow you to more clearly see its weaknesses.
So why tie yourself to two years to make the choice?
Springer explains that although it might not seem like a long time, two years is about enough time to get to truly know another person – and decide if you feel comfortable with any small niggly habits that might be lurking. Ultimately, you want to make sure you’re feeling the good kind of nerves (and not the crippling fear of worries or doubts)…
That said, we’re big believers in knowing your own feelings best.
While Springer says two years is a good benchmark, she agrees waiting until you’re comfortable is ultimately the most important factor in settling down with a significant other.
Just maybe hide your wedding collage if you’re only on the third date…
H/T Psychology Today
