Long-distance relationships can be tough.
It can be easy getting frustrated when the person you love lives miles and miles away and you can’t see each other when you want.
One 28-year-old woman on Reddit has opened up about her long-distance relationship with her 33-year-old fiancé and explained why she and her partner are not seeing eye to eye.
“My fiancé moved across the country a few weeks ago.
“Since then, we’ve talked on cam, but I’ve refused to get naked for him. Back in January, we broke up because, during an argument, he said he was going to post naked photos of me online. He immediately told me he was never actually going to do that, but just wanted something to get my attention after I broke things off and called the cops to get him off my property.”
Despite their rocky history, the pair went on to get engaged.
“Fast-forward now, we’re engaged. He’s moved. I don’t ever take naked photos and after what he said, I never will. He told me that unless I start sending him naked photos or get naked for him on cam, he’s going to cheat on me because he has urges he can’t suppress.
“He told me that unless I send him photos in the interim between me coming there, he’s going to need to seek sex elsewhere…
“I’ve been in the process of moving out there so I’ve been busy doing job interviews, searching for apartments, and working 60+ hours a week. I generally don’t want sex right now. And I absolutely don’t want to get naked when he can take photos.”
Although she has been working hard and has already explained why she’s afraid to give in to her fiancé’s requests, he doesn’t seem to understand and has threatened to cheat on her.
“He knows the reason why I won’t send photos is because 1. it generally is just not a good idea and 2. because of what he said. But he keeps telling me that unless I get naked for him (in his words, “show that I want him”), he is going to cheat because of his sex drive.
“I’ve been going to doctors a lot lately since January, and the doctors even explained to him my libido is lower because my hormones are out of balance because of a brain tumor. Oh yeah, a brain tumor. Yet I’ve managed to have sex with him at least three times a day when he was living with me back here. He says it isn’t good enough because I don’t initiate anymore and I don’t seem “as into it.”
She explains that she has tried to give him something to appease him but is left clueless as to stay with him or leave.
“It’s only been two weeks since he left. And it’s only been three days since I actually did show him my chest–through a bra–on cam. I honestly feel like shit that I’m uprooting my entire life for him and he’s reacting my telling me he’s going to cheat on me.
“I don’t even know if there’s any way to help him feel like I still want him without getting naked, since that’s something I used to do when we were away years ago. I guess to him, me having sex on cam was a healthy part of our relationship that just isn’t there anymore.”
Despite the emergence of revenge porn among couples, it seems there is still a demand for naked pictures – even between close partners.
